Birey do\u011fdu\u011fu aile ile hayat\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir. Ailenin kurallar\u0131, tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 bireyin hayata dair ilk tecr\u00fcbelerini olu\u015fturur. Hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde kar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131 her \u015feyi \u00f6nce burada deneyimler. Nas\u0131l yemek yenmesi, nerede nas\u0131l giyinmesi, ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla ileti\u015fime ge\u00e7erken nelere dikkat etmesi gerekti\u011fini \u00f6nce ailesinden \u00f6\u011frenir. En \u00f6nemlisi ili\u015fki kurma \u015feklini, bu ili\u015fkiyi kurarken \u00f6nemli olan noktalar\u0131, vermesi gereken tavizleri, \u00e7izmesi gereken s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir. Hal b\u00f6yleyken aile i\u00e7i tart\u0131\u015fmalar \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in bir g\u00f6zlem olay\u0131d\u0131r.
\n\u0130ki farkl\u0131 bireyin bir hayat\u0131 payla\u015f\u0131rken her zaman ayn\u0131 fikirde olmas\u0131n\u0131 beklemek \u00e7ok do\u011fru ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 olmaz. Ancak bu tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n nas\u0131l ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve nas\u0131l \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in \u00f6nemlidir. \u00c7ocuk tart\u0131\u015fma s\u0131ras\u0131nda anne babas\u0131n\u0131n tavr\u0131n\u0131, tutumunu ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zlemler. Daha sonras\u0131nda benzeri bir durumla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda da di\u011fer b\u00fct\u00fcn olaylarda yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi ailesinden \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 sergiler.<\/p>\n
Peki tart\u0131\u015fma nas\u0131l olursa \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in olumsuz sonu\u00e7lar do\u011furmaz?
\nTart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fil yap\u0131c\u0131 olmas\u0131 \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in olumsuz sonu\u00e7lar \u00e7\u0131karmayaca\u011f\u0131 gibi olumlu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n da peki\u015fmesine destek olur.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmalar nas\u0131l olur?
\nTart\u0131\u015fma s\u0131ras\u0131nda sesler y\u00fcksektir. Se\u00e7ilen s\u00f6zler sert ve a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131r. Taraflar birbirini su\u00e7layan bir dille ya da sen dili ile konu\u015fur. tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n amac\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ula\u015fmak de\u011fildir. S\u0131k s\u0131k ayn\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmalar tekrar eder. \u00c7ocuk bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te kendini tehlikede hissedebilir ve bu sebeple kayg\u0131l\u0131 olabilir. Tart\u0131\u015fma \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131n diye arabulucu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 artt\u0131rabilir. Sorunlar\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131 olarak kendini g\u00f6rebilir. G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 di\u011fer zorluklarla ba\u015f ederken de evdeki bu ortam\u0131 an\u0131msayarak tepkiler verebilir.<\/p>\n
Yap\u0131c\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmalar nas\u0131l olmal\u0131d\u0131r?
\nTart\u0131\u015fma s\u0131ras\u0131nda kullan\u0131lan kelimeler \u00f6zenlidir. Ses tonu normal seviyelerdedir. Taraflar birbirini su\u00e7lamadan ben dili ile konu\u015fur. \u00c7at\u0131\u015fma, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ula\u015farak sona erer. Bu \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm her zaman anla\u015fmak ya da ayn\u0131 noktada bulu\u015fmak anlam\u0131na gelmez. Baz\u0131 konular\u0131n ortak bir yerde bitmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir. B\u00f6yle zamanlarda taraflar\u0131n birbirinden zaman istemesi ve bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te kendi a\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131ndan bu olay i\u00e7in de\u011fi\u015ftirebilecekleri noktalar\u0131 ke\u015ffetmeleri ve bunlar\u0131 konu\u015fmak i\u00e7in ba\u015fka bir zamanda tekrar bu konuyu g\u00fcndeme getirmeleri \u00f6nemlidir. \u00c7ocuk bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te anla\u015fmazl\u0131klar\u0131n do\u011fal ve y\u00f6netilebilir oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frenir.<\/p>\n
Tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar \u00fczerindeki etkisini azaltmak i\u00e7in onlara tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n do\u011fal oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011fretebilirsiniz. Kavga etmek yerine ileti\u015fim kurman\u0131n avantajlar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterebilirsiniz. Tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n yan\u0131nda \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ula\u015ft\u0131rabilirsiniz. \u00c7ocu\u011fun duygular\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015fmak i\u00e7in te\u015fvik edin ve ona anlay\u0131\u015fla yakla\u015f\u0131n.<\/p>\n
Asl\u0131nda \u00e7ocuklar anla\u015fmazl\u0131k ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda de\u011fil, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeyen ve k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalardan zarar g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Yap\u0131c\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u00a0mutlu\u00a0\u00e7ocuklar.<\/p>\n
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Birey do\u011fdu\u011fu aile ile hayat\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir. Ailenin kurallar\u0131, tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 bireyin hayata dair ilk tecr\u00fcbelerini olu\u015fturur. Hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde kar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131 her \u015feyi \u00f6nce burada deneyimler. Nas\u0131l yemek yenmesi, nerede nas\u0131l giyinmesi, ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla ileti\u015fime ge\u00e7erken nelere dikkat etmesi gerekti\u011fini \u00f6nce ailesinden \u00f6\u011frenir. En \u00f6nemlisi ili\u015fki kurma \u015feklini, bu ili\u015fkiyi kurarken \u00f6nemli olan noktalar\u0131, vermesi gereken tavizleri, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4484,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[33],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4483","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-evin-guncesi"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4483","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4483"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4483\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4529,"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4483\/revisions\/4529"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4484"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4483"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4483"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ankarapsikolojievi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4483"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}